Tiffany Haddish‘s new essay collection, titled I Curse You With Joy, officially hit shelves May 7, 2024. In it, the actress and comedian dives deep into her past, sharing stories about her sex life and growing up with an absent father.
In Touch shares the most exciting bombshells from Tiffany’s latest book, including how many sex partners she’s had up until its publication as well as why she never made the cut to become a full-time cast member on Saturday Night Live.
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Tiffany Haddish Reveals How Many Sex Partners She’s Had
As of publication, Tiffany has had sex with 48 men, according to I Curse You With Joy. “I know the exact number because I keep track of any sexual activity where juices were present in a notebook I keep tucked up inside my vagina in a Ziploc baggie,” she wrote, also explaining that those who have seen her perform may think she’s “promiscuous.”
“I have definitely been out here in these streets, and I am not going to deny that I do have a certain amount of experience,” she said. “If you are looking to hit it with somebody brand-new, look elsewhere. But if you want somebody who knows her body, knows how she wants it, and knows how to make sure everyone has a good time, then hop on top!”
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Tiffany Haddish Struggled in Her Sex Life When She Was on Prozac
When Tiffany was taking the antidepressant Prozac, she revealed she was “f–king everything under the sun because I just wanted to feel something.” She explained that the act no longer was enjoyable when she was using the drug. “To be fair, I did feel something, but what I felt was pain. Sex would hurt. My vaginal area, my root chakra, was not working. There was no energy flowing down there. Sex was a purely mechanical act. Dudes could get it in, but I wasn’t having orgasms.”
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Tiffany Haddish Reconnected With Her Father at Age 27, Shortly Before He Died
In I Curse You With Joy, Tiffany went into detail about the complicated relationship she had with her father before his death in 2017. Before she turned 4, Tiffany explained, “My father disappeared — poof,” allegedly because he was selling green cards illegally and “was worried [Tiffany’s] mom would turn him in to the police.”
However, in her 20s, Tiffany said that she got a message to her father letting him know that she wanted to speak to him, and he called her when she was 27. “We talked for over an hour. He had had a whole life without me,” she wrote.
“Maybe there had been something about seeing me in the life I had and knowing I had built it all by myself without his help that was too much for him,” she continued. “I never saw him again. We still spoke on the phone and FaceTimed a little bit, but there were no more visits. Eventually, the phone calls petered out, and I stopped hearing from him entirely. I was heartbroken. In May of 2017, I was in Vegas filming when I got a call. It was a weirdly cold night for Vegas in the spring, and I shivered when I answered It was a nurse from the hospital in Chico calling to tell me that my dad was dying.”
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Tiffany Haddish Auditioned for ‘Saturday Night Live’ – but Never Made the Cut
Tiffany made Saturday Night Live history by becoming the first Black female stand-up comic to host the show; however, she could never get hired as a full-time cast member. She revealed that in early 2000, the Laugh Factory on Sunset Boulevard hosted a showcase for comics to be seen in front of a scout. “I was prepared,” she said. “After that showcase, nothing happened. No call offering me the job. No contract. I couldn’t see it then, but that was the universe telling me, This isn’t for you, girl.”
Years later, in 2010, she made an audition tape for the show. “Word came back that the producers had liked what they’d seen. They were going to fly me out to New York to audition for Lorne Michaels and the rest of the producers and executives,” she said. But after her audition, she met a man in the elevator who told her “they’re not going to have you on the show.”
She wrote, “What I hadn’t put together until my agent called me was this old guy was one of the dudes who was controlling the lights up in the rafters. He knew the ins and outs of the show and what they were looking for. I didn’t get the job. Again. The universe was like, How many times do I have to tell you? This isn’t for you.”
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Tiffany Haddish Reveals a Feud With a Past Stylist
While she did not provide a name, Tiffany recalled an unpleasant encounter as she prepared for an Academy Awards ceremony. “This is the story of my Oscar dress — and how I almost knocked a motherf–ker out over it,” she wrote. “I had a stylist — let’s call him Tiddlywinks — I’d worked with for a while, and it was going to be his job to get me red-carpet ready.”
Tiffany made it clear that she wanted to wear her Eritrean princess dress since her father had died six months earlier and she got the piece from Eritrea during her first time there. But her then-stylist had different plans. “When that stylist came into that room without my dress, I felt like I caught somebody trying to rob me,” Tiffany explained. “My wishes were being disrespected. I was being violated. My hood instincts kicked in. You f–ck with my shit, my money, my vision — you try to destroy my soul? I’m gonna come at you.”
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Tiffany Haddish Had Her First Orgasm While Watching a Nicolas Cage Movie — and Eventually Told Him!
There’s a first time for everything, and Nicolas Cage may even be there to cheer you on! While writing about the first time she had an orgasm, Tiffany revealed that she was watching the Face/Off actor in action.
“I closed my eyes and gave myself over to the pressure. Just as things were about to go off, I opened my lids and there was Nicolas Cage on-screen. His piercing blue eyes were looking into my soul as I was achieving a momentous moment for the first time in my life,” she wrote.
Tiffany, who worked with Nicolas on The Unbearable Weight of Massive Talent, later came clean: “So, I told him all about how I got off at Face/Off. ‘And now every time you look at me in my eyes you make me think of that guy. I keep seeing him in my head. This is why I am having a problem saying my lines.’ Ahhhhhhhh. There. I’d said it. I was either going to be able to do this job now or I was going to be fired. Nicolas Cage’s eyes crinkled way up as he cracked up laughing. ‘That’s crazy. That’s a crazy story.’”
She concluded, “Ain’t no lesson in this chapter. Just a story about how I couldn’t do my job until I shared the unbearable weight of my first big O with Nicolas Cage.”
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Tiffany Haddish Opens Up About Her Fertility Journey
“I have been pregnant a few times, but none of them went to term,” Tiffany revealed in I Curse You With Joy. “It’s not like I was looking to have a baby by any of those men, but I believe in following God’s path for me. If one of those pregnancies would have ended with a baby, I would have brought it as a mom. So far, though, God’s path for me seems to be for me to remain child-free because my body is not about holding onto babies. I’ve lost more than my fair share of pregnancies over the years.”
She then recalled one of her recent pregnancy losses, writing that it was “just a few months ago, actually.” Tiffany, who has been open about wanting to start a family, revealed more about what the doctors have said about trying to conceive.
“She showed me where my uterus was producing extra layers both inside and outside,” Tiffany explained of her doctor. “Then she told me that meant I have a condition called endometriosis. Endometriosis is when your body grows tissue that’s like what’s in your uterus all over your midsection. It hurts like a bitch, makes your monthly cycle really heavy, and can cause infertility. I can’t believe it took until I was forty-four to learn that your cycle isn’t supposed to hurt. She talked to me about different ways I could exercise and eat to help with the symptoms. The real thing she did for me, though, was let me know I wasn’t crazy and I wasn’t weak.”
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