I Kicked My Bridesmaid Out of My Wedding via Text – I Believe She Deserved It

A bride disclosed that she removed a bridesmaid from her wedding through a text message, citing the bridesmaid’s behavior as the reason for her decision. She detailed the unacceptable manner in which she was treated by the bridesmaid.

Brides carefully select their bridesmaids, trusting that they will stand by their side. The bridesmaids play crucial roles, providing emotional assistance and helping with wedding preparations.

One woman was looking forward to relishing the bond between a bride and her bridesmaids, which symbolizes friendship, loyalty, and solidarity. However, the bride was taken on a rough ride by one of her bridesmaids and she had to kick her out of her wedding via text.

The bride shared on TikTok that she believed this bridesmaid deserved what she got, narrating what she took her through. The TikToker said she and the bridesmaid, whom she called Vanessa, had been in each other’s lives since elementary school.

However, in middle school, Vanessa moved three hours away. The bride and Vanessa maintained contact and even agreed to hang out whenever they were in the same town. In October 2021, Vanessa went to the bride’s town and they went out for coffee, spending five hours together.

After spending this moment together, they both agreed that they had so much fun that they would love to meet and hang out again. However, over the years, when the bride made plans with Vanessa, she never came through.

The bride explained, “Either one of three things would happen. First thing she just wouldn’t answer, second, she’d give me an excuse but not reschedule the day, so let’s say I was like, ‘Hey, wanna hang out on Saturday?’ She goes, no, I’m busy and so I’d be like no I can hang out on Sunday, though. Number three, we would be in the middle of planning something and she would just disappear.”

Eventually, the bride figured out that Vanessa just didn’t want to hang out with her again, so she stepped back. In January 2023, the bride texted Vanessa, letting her know that her 21st birthday was coming up and that she’d love to celebrate it with her alongside some of her other friends.

The bride’s birthday was in February 2023. So, when she called Vanessa, she asked her to pick the weekend they would celebrate, which would fit into her schedule as she was always so busy. “I am free on the 24th and 25th,” said Vanessa. With this information at hand, the bride created a group chat with all her friends, including Vanessa to begin her birthday plans.

For the next few weeks, the bride sent messages about her birthday plans to the group and realized that everyone else was responding except Vanessa. A week before her birthday, the bride still hadn’t heard anything from Vanessa, so she texted her separately asking her if she was still going to her birthday.

Vanessa texted back, “Hang on I’m at work,” to which the bride replied, “Okay.” Still, Vanessa never got back to her for the rest of the day. The bride had to text Vanessa again the next day asking if she would attend her birthday celebrations over the weekend.

This time Vanessa replied, telling the bride that she found out a few weeks ago that one of her family members was coming to town on the birthday weekend so she would have to bail on her. The bride recalled, “I was like, I did tell you about this a month ago, and she goes, I know but they don’t come to town very often, I hope you have fun though.”

The bride just replied, “Okay, thanks for letting me know.” Vanessa then told the bride that she would love to catch up with her over the summer. As usual, Vanessa never reached out over the summer and the bride didn’t bother making plans with her as she felt they wouldn’t materialize as is the norm.

In August 2023, Vanessa finally reached out to the bride. They made plans and the bride drove three hours to her hometown to see her and her parents. The two agreed to stay in an Airbnb for two days and split the cost.

Upon arrival, Vanessa and the bride decided to go shopping. Surprisingly, Vanessa said her car wasn’t working so they had to use the bride’s vehicle. The bride was surprised as Vanessa hadn’t mentioned the spoiled car or that she would have to drive them around for those two days.

Since the bride didn’t want to cause drama, she let the issue go. The two went to the mall and Target twice, one for dinner and the other time to buy snacks. Both times they were in Target, Vanessa said she would pay, so the bride never expected her to ask for a refund.

When the two days were over and the bride went back home, she was surprised when Vanessa texted her, “You owe me $55.75 for the trip.” Vanessa expected the bride to pay her back for each half of the Target trip that she had insisted on paying for. The bride recalled that she had paid a ticket for $15 so, Vanessa expected her to pay back $40.75 minus the ticket.

The bride ended up calling her fiancé to ask for advice as she didn’t feel like paying Vanessa the money back. However, her fiancé just asked her to pay Vanessa. Still, the bride recalled that she had driven them around for two days. So, she asked Vanessa what would happen to the cost of gas. Vanessa asked her to take $20 off and send the rest. “I spent $100 on gas,” shared the bride.

The bride didn’t tell Vanessa how much she spent on gas, she just went ahead and sent her $55.75. However, in her mind, she now knew the kind of person she was dealing with. Unfortunately, the bride had to deal with Vanessa again.

While in Vanessa’s hometown, the bride had found a wedding dress she liked. So, the bride made plans to go see the dress again, with her family, her fiancé’s family, and bridesmaids. She created a group chat while walking out of the store with Vanessa and added these people so she could get their opinions on the dress.

The bride also told Vanessa, “Hey, you are going to be in this group chat, because I do want you to be in my wedding, I do want you to be one of my bridesmaids.” Vanessa reacted sweetly, “Ooh my gosh I am honored, that will be so great.”

However, the bride ended up visiting another shop where she fell in love with a wedding gown that was so much better than the first. She informed everyone in the group chat about the change of shops but that they would still be going to see the dress on the date she had previously informed them, which was December 9, 2023, at 3.00 p.m.

This late afternoon time would allow Vanessa and the bride’s childhood friend, Zoe, to come to the shop in time as they were the only people coming from out of town. Everyone responded to the bride’s message positively.

Still, the bride created a separate group chat with Vanessa and Zoe, acknowledging that the venue change would inconvenience them as they would have to drive a few hours to her town. So, the bride offered to host them for a sleepover at her parents’ place, so that they wouldn’t have to drive into her town on the same day.

Zoe was excited about this plan and agreed to it immediately. “Of course, I don’t hear anything from Vanessa,” shared the bride. The bride wondered why Vanessa hadn’t replied since the plans were made a month before the set date.

The bride then found Vanessa active on Instagram, so she asked her if she saw her message. Vanessa didn’t reply to this message or the follow-up one that the bride texted her. The bride sent a total of three messages and eventually, she decided to call Vanessa.

She reached Vanessa’s voicemail and asked if she would still be going to see her wedding gown with her and the rest of the other people. Immediately after leaving the voicemail, Vanessa finally texted the bride back, “Yes, I have seen your three texts. I have been really busy. I will answer when I can.”

The bride was surprised since all she needed was for Vanessa to tell her if she would come or not, which wouldn’t take much of her time. She told Vanessa that she just wanted to know if she was coming so she could have the final headcount for planning.

Vanessa answered, “I have been completely busy and honestly I was trying to scramble and figure out if I could even drive down or not and it doesn’t even look like I am going to be able to but please send me pictures of your dress.”

The bride just thanked Vanessa for letting her know but she was still pissed by this response. After calming down for a bit, the bride texted Vanessa again, “Look, if my three texts bothered you that much, I am just gonna go ahead and take you out of the wedding group chat. Like, I really do not want to bombard you with wedding texts if my three texts bothered you.”

The bride narrated, “It was a little bit petty but, like, it was deserved.” The bride thought Vanessa would respond but she never did. So, she unfriended Vanessa on everything. Vanessa reached out on January 6, 2024, to the bride with a long apology, saying that she was sorry and that as much as she was going through a rough time, she shouldn’t have responded to the bride that way.

Vanessa wished the bride the best and said she understood why she wasn’t part of the wedding anymore. The bride wasn’t moved by this text as she recognized that Vanessa always claimed to be going through hard times when she behaved wrongly towards her.

Still, the bride was glad that Vanessa apologized. She thought about sending her a long message telling Vanessa how much she had hurt her but didn’t feel like it would be worth it. “Honestly, I am not going to put my energy into someone who doesn’t deserve it,” said the bride.

The bride waited for around 40 minutes after Vanessa sent her text and then she replied, “Thanks for the apology, I wish you the best.” The bride didn’t tell Vanessa that she had forgiven her or wished her Happy New Year back just as she had. Instead, she unfriended and blocked her on everything, having finally figured that Vanessa wasn’t worth her time or energy.

The bride’s followers felt that she was right to let go of Vanessa. “That’s fifteen chances too much,” said a user. “We’re all busy but find time for the people that are important to us,” a person commented. Another person told the bride that Vanessa’s, “silence spoke volumes. You should be surrounded by people who love you.”

People with other opinions wrote, “I think you tried too hard and she just wanted the friendship to fall off.” One user advised the bride, “Never cross oceans for someone who wouldn’t cross a puddle for you! Seems like her loss.”

Today, the bride is happy with her fiancé, Anthony, who she has been in a relationship with for six years. The two have already picked the venue, color, and outfits for their wedding, which will be in Spring 2024.

The bride also finally stands up for herself and recognizes that Vanessa was an awful friend to her over the years. She no longer has ties with Vanessa and learned a lot from this experience.

If you liked this story, here is another about a maid of honor who told a woman a devastating secret about the groom. This woman wondered if she should inform the bride. Find out what the woman did next.

A woman has turned to social media to share a wedding-related turmoil she’s experiencing and to seek advice from online users. The woman, Karo Aprano, from Miami, took to TikTok to reveal that just a month ago, she befriended a charming woman.

Karo and the woman bonded so closely that the bride extended an invitation for Karo to attend her upcoming wedding. Following this invitation, the bride tagged Karo to events to introduce her to friends and other attendees of the wedding, ensuring she could become acquainted with them prior to the big day.

Karo also got to meet the bridal team as much as she wasn’t a part of them. During one weekend gathering, Karo, the woman, and the bridal team interacted as usual. However, this meeting took an unexpected turn when the maid of honor confided in Karo, revealing a devastating secret.

She told Karo that “the groom has slept with the bride’s sister and that the bride has no idea and he is down to do it again.” Karo stood there, feeling overwhelmed after the bombshell was dropped on her.

She expressed that she didn’t need to know this information. Karo told the maid of honor that she didn’t want to know this information as it was putting her in a really uncomfortable situation. She wished they could rewind to five minutes ago when she didn’t know this. “Because I didn’t want to know this and I still don’t want to know this,” she explained.

The maid of honor, who is the closest girl to the bride, recounted the situation to Karo. Karo stood there, feeling a sense of urgency. “You have to tell her,” she urged “She’s getting married in like two weeks. You cannot let her marry this man.”

The maid of honor asserted that she couldn’t do it. Karo insisted that the maid of honor should be the one to tell the bride this crushing information but she still refused. Despite Karo urging the maid of honor to do what was right, she persisted, stating that she was not going to do it.

The maid of honor was not going to tell the bride as she feared she would ruin her wedding and her relationship with this groom that she’d been with for so long. “You should. Like, how are you going to let your best friend marry a guy that has not only been with her sister but is going around saying that he would do it again,” Karo reasoned with the maid of honor.

Despite Karo’s best efforts, she couldn’t get the maid of honor to tell the bride what she knew, leaving the pressure on herself. Karo also pointed out that the bride’s sister was behaving in an unfortunate manner. She just couldn’t understand why any person would do that to their sister.

Now, Karo felt uncomfortable sitting on this news but she couldn’t see herself telling the bride this information, considering they barely knew each other. “I met her a month ago, like, I’m not going be the one to tell her, like, ‘Hey you know that your fiancé is like with your sister.’ Can you imagine?” she asked her followers.

Karo explained that part of her wanted to tell the bride due to the code she upheld of having another girl’s back. Still, Karo felt like she didn’t know the bride that well for her to drop this information. She argued that this saga should be none of her business and that she should be the last person involved in it. “I shouldn’t even know this information,” she insisted.

Karo speculated that maybe she was told this information because she was the irrelevant one in the group, having known the bride for just a month. She noted that most girls when they have something to let off their chest, dump the gossip on the most irrelevant person, which was Karo in this case.

Karo explained that she had decided to go online with the information because she just couldn’t contain it in her and needed to share it with someone. The only people she could share with were online users, who were irrelevant to the story and could give objective advice.

“So I’ve kind of just been going back and forth in my head all day like, I shouldn’t tell her right? No, I’m not going tell her,” she concluded, “I’m not going be the one to do that. First of all, she might not even believe me.” Karo noted that the bride might tell her “Girl, I just met you.” “I’m not going do it,” she proclaimed.

Online users advised Karo, with one narrating their experience, “I once told a best friend that her bf was cheating on her. She sided with him. We never spoke again. Lesson learned. Don’t ever tell.” Karo feared this scenario would happen between her and the bride.

Another user told Karo, “You were told for a reason. You don’t have anything to lose bcz you don’t really know these ppl. Tell her & then tell her everyone that knows about it.”

As much as she had her fears, Karo decided to follow this advice and tell the bride. She tried to get a hold of her so that they could have the conversation face-to-face but it didn’t work out as she was so busy with wedding celebrations.

Eventually, Karo ended up calling the bride and she informed her that the groom had cheated on her with her sister. The bride was furious that Karo told her, she shouted on the phone, “How dare you make this accusation? You don’t know him; you don’t know me. You are uninvited from my wedding.”

The bride ranted on. “Why would you ever say that? My wedding is in three days. Why would you ruin this day for me? He would never do this. She would never do that. That’s my sister you are talking about. That’s my fiancé you are talking about.” Karo tried to calm down the bride, informing her that she was only passing on this information.

Finally, Karo explained, “I am not saying this is true. For all I know, it probably isn’t. I am just telling you what I was told because if things like these were being said about me, I would want to know that no matter who they are being said to. So I had to tell you.”

However, the bride wouldn’t listen, she told Karo not to come to her wedding and hung up. The night before the wedding, at around 10.00 p.m., Karo got a call from the bride, who was crying. Karo calmed her down and she went ahead to tell her what had transpired.

The bride narrated that she and her fiancé had rented two houses. One of the houses would host the bride and her bridal team while the other would be for the fiancé and his party. So, on the day before the wedding, the bride and her fiancé were to leave for these houses. The bride left before the groom but he told her that he’d be leaving soon.

However, 30 minutes into her drive, the bride realized she had forgotten something, so she went back home. Upon reaching home, she saw her fiancé’s car was still in the driveway.

The bride found this weird as he had told her that he would leave as soon as she left. She wondered why her fiancé was still there. The bride was shocked when she walked in and found her fiancé in their room with her sister.

The bride’s worst fears were confirmed. She also confirmed that what Karo had told her was the truth. On that phone call, she apologized to Karo for how she had reacted to what Karo had told her.

The bride figured that as soon as Karo told her, she should have gone through her fiancé and sister’s phone to find the truth. She should have also questioned the maid of honor.

However, Karo was empathetic and also apologized to the bride for how unfortunate the events had turned out to be. The wedding was canceled as the bride and her fiancé broke up. The bride also cut off her sister for her heart-wrenching betrayal.

Karo revealed that she and the bride remained friends. “We are actually closer than ever,” she said. The bride is also in another relationship and is happy. Karo advised her followers to leave if they ever find themselves in the situation the bride was in.

She told them that everything that happens in life, whether good or bad is a blessing and that it does get better in the end. Karo also urged her followers to listen to their friends and believe them when they open up to them about the men in their lives.