My Bridesmaid Bullied Me in a Secret Group Chat

A few years back, as TikToker Yolanda Diaz prepared for one of the most important days of her life, she found herself at a crossroads when one of her most trusted allies accidentally revealed a truth so jarring that it not only shattered Yolanda’s heart but also dangled the fragile threads of their friendship precariously in the balance.

TikToker Yolanda Diaz took to the platform to retell the story of how one of her most pivotal moments turned into a battle for friendship when one of her closest friends revealed a secret that shocked her to the core.

Flashing back to when she was engaged, she recalled having nine bridesmaids. “And I was excited to ask everybody to be part of my bridal party, but there was this one friend (A) I was hanging out pretty frequently,” she said.

She disclosed that she’d always known who she wanted her Maid of Honor(MOH) to be long before she even met her fiancé, Zach. Her MOH would be her college friend, her sorority sister.

But when she started asking those she wanted to be her bridesmaids, she started noticing weird behavior from this one friend she hung out with often. She especially noticed this shift of attitude after she selected her MOH.

The friend, A, began making snide comments, saying she wished she had hung out with a different group of people and made more friends, but because Yolanda was busy planning the wedding, she dismissed the comments and focused on what was important.

Now, a while later, true to A’s wishes, she met and started becoming close with another girl, B. Yolanda eventually met B, and they even became a cute trio: her, A, and B. They began hanging out, and Yolanda even invited B to be a guest at her wedding.

However, at some point, she was edged out of the friendship, but at the time, it seemed like a normal falling out between friends, and she did not attach any sinister explanation to it. “It should have been a red flag, but again, I kept telling myself that, ‘I’m just busy wedding planning, and that’s not an area that they can relate to or want to be involved in right now.'”

After some time, A met another girl, C, and she and B formed a trio. At this time, Yolanda had never met C (she never has to this day), but the three began hanging out quite often. It did not occur to Yolanda that she would be the center of their discussions until one of the girls made a comment that tore the very fabric of her being.

On the material day, Yolanda and friend A had been enjoying a drink when A reiterated that she wished Yolanda, her MOH, and her other friends hang out with A more. Yolanda thought it was a fabulous idea, and maybe they could all hang out — Yolanda, her MOH, her other friends, and A’s friends.

However, this was met with the most unexpected of statements. “My friends would think it was weird if I asked them to hang out with you,” A revealed.

Yolanda was shocked. “That comment shocked me to the core I literally felt my heart do something,” she retold. At the time, however, she asked the friend if she was sure because they had hung out tons of times before.

To prove her point, the friend whipped out her phone and showed Yolanda their chats, a myriad of messages between A, B, and C, trash-talking her. In there were also messages referring to Yolanda as “a toxic boyfriend” that A could not get rid of. B, however, went a step further and in one of her messages, in all caps, wrote, “I HATE HER!”

At this point, Yolanda admits she did “not have a backbone,” and let her friend convince her that the messages were a result of a drunken misunderstanding. She believed her and let it go, but in retrospect, says she is disappointed in herself for allowing that kind of behavior from her so-called “friends.”

The wedding happened and they did not talk for almost a year. She even recalls that after the wedding, she woke up to find A and some other bridesmaids had unfollowed her on social media.

But then, out of the blue, Yolanda received a text from friend A. It was an apology, saying,” Sorry, you did not deserve that I surrounded myself with mean girls and became (one). The friend owned up and took accountability for her actions and even acknowledged that she had been mean to Yolanda.

Yolanda accepted the apology, seeing as she and the friend had shared many beautiful memories. However, she called the friend out for being mean to her and mistreating her for no apparent reason.

As for friend B, Yolanda says she couldn’t be bothered as she never met her, but still wondered why someone you’ve never met would say such mean things about her. Still, she maintains that it is all water under the bridge, and she has since moved on and hopes the friends are thriving.

In the wake of Yolanda’s story, a surge of support and solidarity emerged from her audience, echoing sentiments of understanding and encouragement. The comments section of her narrative became a beacon of positivity, with many rallying around her strength and resilience.

One reader commented, “The jealousy they had!” pinpointing the underlying emotion that might have driven the friends’ hurtful actions. Another shared, “It’s even more frustrating and hurtful that this all happened throughout your wedding planning and wedding. Like that should be the best time and shouldn’t have to be worrying about things like [that].”

“They obviously envy you! Keep shining with your bright heart. They are not a girl’s girl. Karma will get them,” another reader remarked, emphasizing the belief in Yolanda’s positive spirit and the expectation that justice, in some form, will prevail.

The comments also reflected on the broader implications of such betrayals, with one stating, “Sometimes it’s the people we love who end up showing their true colors. Better to know than to never find out.”

Amidst the shared frustrations, there was a collective agreement on the importance of support in times of personal milestones. “They are straight up jealous of you,” confirmed the prevailing theory among Yolanda’s supporters.

Another added, “Even if friends can’t relate to wedding planning, they should still be excited to hear about it,” emphasizing the basic expectation of empathy and interest from true friends.

Did this story of friendship and betrayal tug at your heart? In another story, a woman was in a years-long relationship with a man only to discover he was an undercover cop sent to spy on her. Read about her here.