My Mom Ruined Our $9K Gender Reveal Party

A man narrated his mother’s disruption of his and his wife’s gender reveal party. The man had initially uninvited her mom due to her behavior towards his pregnant wife. Later, they relented and invited the mom at the last minute, only for her to ultimately ruin the gender reveal party.

A man and his wife were excited to have a gender reveal party for their second pregnancy. However, the event didn’t go as planned, as the man said, “My mom ruined our $9000 gender reveal party.” The man, Wesley, and his wife, Candace, did not have a gender reveal party for their first pregnancy, which turned out to be a twin pregnancy.

So, when they were blessed with another pregnancy, Wesley wanted to throw an exceptional and fun gender reveal party for his wife. He revealed, “I save up money for a few months and I wanted to throw the best mom in the world, the most fun gender reveal she could possibly have.”

Wesley didn’t keep his plans a secret from his wife. Candace knew how much he was saving and together, they made a plan. Wesley would be in charge of signing the checks and Candace was more than happy to take care of the planning.

Wesley and his wife also lived in Oklahoma, where the gender reveal party would take place. The Tiktoker’s friends and family also stayed in the same state but most of Candace’s family and friends were from Pennsylvania.

Due to the distance, most of Candace’s family and friends wouldn’t make it to the gender reveal party but the couple wanted them to be involved in a way. So, Candace asked her mother and sister to help with the planning.

“They picked the date, they picked the location, they picked the theme and got it all booked and we decided to update family and friends on what exactly was happening,” shared Wesley. The couple texted everyone, including Candace’s mother-in-law (MIL).

Candace handled texting Wesley’s mom and when she sent her the details, she asked if she needed help planning the event. Candace replied, “My sister and I are actually planning it.” Wesley’s mom sent another text saying that’s not what she asked.

Still, Candace answered that everything was sorted but they might need help planning on the set day so if Wesley’s mom could arrive 30 minutes earlier, they could use her help. Surprisingly, Wesley’s mom asked, “Am I getting paid?” Candace, who was surprised, questioned her, “Why would you get paid?” Wesley’s mom responded, “Because I’m not your fu***ng maid.”

Wesley wasn’t aware this conversation between his wife and mother was happening via text as he was in another room. He was only made aware when Candace burst into the other room crying and explaining to a shocked Wesley that his mom just cursed her out.

“This is what I need you guys on TikTok to understand, there is a grand total of zero people that are ever going to curse out my wife,” explained Wesley, who went ahead and called his mom. The call lasted 10 seconds, where Wesley told his mom, “You are never going to speak to Candace like that again. You are not invited to the gender reveal party. Goodbye.”

Wesley blocked his mom after uninviting her to the event. He explained that he only intended to block her for the period of the gender reveal party and that after two months he’d unblock her, they’d talk everything out and move forward.

However, Wesley’s mom still texted him numerously, apologizing and lamenting that she wouldn’t want to miss her grandkids at the event. Wesley responded, “Hey, we appreciate your apologies but you crossed a line and you’re not coming.”

Wesley went silent on his mom for a couple of weeks and only heard from her again on the day of the gender reveal party. The TikToker was getting into the hotel and setting things up when his mom texted, “Hey, can I please come today? I am so sorry.” Wesley told his mom she couldn’t come as he had to stick to the boundary he set. “I’m sorry,” he added.

Wesley knew missing the event would hurt his mom as her friends were attending. However, he noted that his mom put herself in that situation and he could do nothing about it. “I’m not going to feel bad because you talked to my wife in a way you shouldn’t have,” Wesley told his mom. In a surprising turn of events, she responded threateningly, “Okay, I have no choice then.”

Wesley didn’t focus on his mother’s words. He swiftly brushed them aside and focused on ensuring the rest of the gender reveal party went smoothly. “I have a $9,000 party and I need to make sure it goes well for this beautiful wife of mine,” noted Wesley.

So, he tended to guests and observed their enjoyment of the snacks and activities, including the bouncy house they had set up for kids. Everything was going well and about 30 minutes before the actual gender reveal occurred, Wesley’s wife approached him.

Candace told Wesley that if she wanted his mom to attend the event, he should just text her and ask her to come. Wesley asked his wife if she was sure, considering his mother disrespected her but she said she was totally okay with that. “That’s the type of person Candace is. She’s just great,” gushed Wesley.

Wesley went ahead and texted his mom, “Hey, in 25 minutes we are doing the reveal, if you want to come, you’re more than welcome to show up.” Wesley’s mom replied that she would be there.

Wesley noted that after he sent this message, things got weird. Twenty-five minutes after asking his mom to come, she still hadn’t shown up as much as she only lived seven minutes away or 10 minutes when there was traffic.

The TikToker’s mind went back to the gender reveal. He said they were going to have a 60-second countdown before revealing the gender. The couple would also enjoy cute moments with their family. They planned to have an interview where they talked about what it would be like to have another child.

In the end, they would turn on the cannons for confetti to fly everywhere and everyone would celebrate. “We’re not going to postpone the whole thing just because my mom didn’t show up and she should be here,” said Wesley.

The party waited a few more minutes for Wesley’s mom but when she didn’t show up, Wesley assumed she was being petty and didn’t want to come, so they went ahead with what they had planned.

The countdown started and it was a very cute and wholesome moment. However, just when it reached the 13th second, the fire alarm went off, all the lights were switched off and then the emergency lights came on. The sprinklers also went off and it started raining down on the whole party.

Everyone ran outside the building as they thought it was on fire. Wesley noted that they all went outside and the fire department showed up, trying to figure out what was wrong. “I look over at the side of the crowd and I see my mom, sitting on the curb, smoking a cigarette,” he revealed.

Wesley looked at Candace and asked her, “Is that my mom?” They both looked over and saw her with the cigarette. Candace wondered, “Do you think she set off the fire alarm?” Wesley told his wife there was no way his mom would do that.

The two went over to ask her and she denied, saying she just got there and was outside the whole time. But, when Wesley looked down, he saw that his mom’s pant legs were wet, meaning she definitely was inside the building and was lying about it.

Candace now believes Wesley’s mom set the fire alarm off and she wants her and Wesley to cut the mom off. “I don’t know, because my mom said she didn’t, Candace thinks she did. If I had to guess, it does seem logical, especially considering the text she sent me beforehand and the fact that we’d been ghosting her for two months,” admitted Wesley.

Online users agreed with Candace that Wesley’s mom definitely ruined their gender reveal party. Still, they thanked Wesley for supporting his wife. “As someone w a mil who crosses the line, THANK YOU for standing by Candace’s side,” a user said. “Good for you! She had no right to do that to Candace. I’m proud of you,” another user concurred.

“This is actually so sad so happy you stood by Candace’s side. Good man. I have a insane MIL and it’s hard,” shared a user. Most online users commended Wesley, “YOU’RE A GOOD MAN,” noting that they love how he talks about his wife and how he supported her throughout his mother’s bad behavior and drama.

Here’s a story of a mother who tried to ruin her son’s wedding by wearing a long white tulle gown to the ceremony. Read to find out what happened to the mom:

A man felt his narcissistic mother made everything about her, even during the most memorable moments in his life. When planning his wedding, his mom asked him whether she could wear white, and he said no.

Somewhere along the way, the mom asked her future daughter-in-law again if she could wear white to the wedding. Not thinking much of it, she said yes. “My mother-in-law-to-be asked me if she could wear white to our wedding. I said sure, and now my fiance is really mad at me,” she wrote.

The bride-to-be shared the story on Reddit after her fiancé’s unexpected response. He was furious that she said yes because he claimed his mom wanted nothing more than to “steal the spotlight.”

The woman never thought much of the white dress because they would have a traditional Indian wedding. Not only would she not be wearing white, but the type of silk and embroidery she planned to wear was so unique that even if they wore the same color, it wouldn’t look identical.

Being such a carefree bride, she also didn’t understand the big deal if she and her mother-in-law wore white. “As long as the groom doesn’t get confused and marry the wrong person, how does it matter?” she asked.

The woman needed Reddit’s help to understand why her husband-to-be was upset. Ultimately, she narrowed down the comments that seemed appropriate to their situation.

Based on OP’s fiance’s reaction, MIL has a history of inappropriate and/or attention-seeking behavior, and he’s trying to break that cycle. OP should talk to her fiance to get on the same page and maybe, going forward, tell MIL she has to “run things by him,” one wrote.

“IMO, the only attention someone other than the bride wearing white to a wedding would get is ridicule. Or maybe concern for their mental health,” another added.

After some insistence from internet users, the bride-to-be decided to speak to her fiancé about why he was so concerned. He then realized that he initially thought his mom was joking that she’d wear white, which he rejected.

The pair agreed to communicate with one another better, and they slowly worked their way through understanding why the husband-to-be felt so strongly about his mother. The man asked his bride to speak to his mom to tell her she couldn’t wear white.

When it became an argument again, she showed him the user comments on Reddit, which brought him into perspective. The man ended up writing something on the site as well.

The man revealed that he and his mother didn’t have a good relationship growing up. She had narcissistic tendencies, demanding gifts during the man’s birthday because she claimed he wouldn’t be in the world without her. “I always felt like my life and achievements were just an extension of her accomplishments,” he explained.

When the man was about to go to college, he went as far as possible. It was there that he met his wife-to-be, Piya. It was in college that he began liking who he was. He never had to downplay his accomplishments because of his mom and accepted failure as part of life.

Piya’s family welcomed the man so warmly. He felt as if his childhood trauma was just a bad dream. Despite feeling so much resentment towards his mom, Piya’s family suggested that he still invite his parents to show them that he would never be alone again and now had a supportive family.

Unlike Piya, who didn’t mind the nitty-gritty details of the ceremony, the man had a clear vision of what he wanted. He wanted the ceremony to be about him and Piya, not his mother. Fortunately, the husband-to-be had the support of his mother-in-law, who went through every step of the wedding planning with him.

His mother-in-law even gave him ideas that he did not think he would love, like making a grand entrance on a horse at the wedding ceremony. He loved how much Piya’s mother valued and listened to his input and how much they had in common. “We have a running joke that I seem more like her son than Piya because our taste is so similar,” he gushed.

After reading the comments on Reddit, the man broke down in front of Piya. Admittedly, he felt it was the ugliest moment in his life. After the meltdown, the man expected to wake up alone. However, Piya stayed. She asked him to go to therapy, and things started getting better for them.

The man took over the wedding preparations with the help of his in-laws. His mother-in-law was relieved because her daughter couldn’t be bothered with colors or flowers.

The wedding turned out beautifully. The man’s mom looked out of place in a long white tulle gown, so security almost didn’t let her in because they thought she was in the wrong place. When she realized her outfit wasn’t enough to cause a distraction, she tried causing a scene through conversation.

However, each time she tried to interrupt the ceremony, Piya’s family members knew just what to do. At one point, when she spoke to Piya’s niece, the lovely five-year-old said loudly: “Don’t you know it’s rude to talk during weddings? I’m five and I know that!” By the end of the day, the man’s mother hadn’t ruined anything. When the party ended, he was relieved to say goodbye.

Ultimately, the man feels lucky that he’s now living his best life with the woman of his dreams. He thanked everyone on Reddit who helped him see clearly, as they’ve helped him improve himself and focus on what’s to come rather than his past.